The" code" or condolence present is the default. The money is in a specially designed cover (see photo above right), which is available in large stationery shops.
As a rule, the amount of the present used to cover the cost of the burial is between 5,000 and 30,000, according to your relationship with the bereaved person. When you are not sure how much to give, ask other people - NOT the dead person's relatives. It' s common to bid uneven sums ( (e.g. five 1000 yen bills = 5000 yen; seven, nine 1000 yen bills, one 10,000 yen).
Be careful not to deposit four "shi", which means "death" in Japan. At funerals, there are two basic sets. There' usually a japanese-style burial involves a vigil. There will be a Buddha clergyman reading a scripture, and then the members of the dead members of the household will in turn be offering frankincense for an frankincense in front of the dead man.
As soon as the Father has finished the satra, the vigil ends. Every leaving visitor receives a thank-you present worth 1/4 to 1/2 of the value of the condolences donated by him. Once the wake-up call has ended, the visitor will still come to show their respect and it is deemed appropriate that those who are not very intimate companions participate either only in the wake-up call (or the evening of the wake-up call) or at the burial, while the host families stay with the dead person in the same room or place for the evening.
If you are not attending the burial or vigil in Japan, but sending a condolences greeting cards, is it common practice to make available k?den if it is for someone you know through your work?
You are not supposed to know the in and out of the condolence thing in either case. When it was an employee who died, someone in the bureau is given details of the collection of funds and the handover in the authorized way. Exactly why you were not involved in the condolences monetary thing is open to gambling.
In principle, you give the individual the amount and you are done. The second case you should have a code cover and cash at your fingertips. I wouldn't be suprised if it was a neighbour if the amount was as much as ¥10,000. To be on the save side, I would have beautiful crunchy 10,000 Japanese currency banknotes, 5,000 Japanese currency banknotes and 5,000 Japanese currency banknotes at my fingertips.
You must write your name on the cover. Coden is the traditional way of giving funds to the dead man's relatives. It is ALWAYS put into a specific cover named Koden Buchuro. DON'T get the incorrect cover. Every kind of code cover suffices.
Whether your envelop is chic or not, all your covers are ejected at the end. It' important whether your name is on the cover. The name, how much you want to write and, if applicable, the adress. This and the many little things you have to do to compose your code: open the key, close the key, place the color string where you can put your name.
It' s common, though not necessary, to give codes when taking part in a vigil or burial, but not both. Generally, folks go to either the vigil or the burial. The majority of the guards are in the eve before the burial. Employees visit the vigil and older boyfriends visit the burial. Of course, the whole house is for both of them.
Go to a burial or vigil. So, you're going to a japonese vigil or burial. It' probably best to be at the vigil rather than the burial. I don't know what to put on. You' re wearing a dark outfit. You change colour, you're the only one who does.
They don't have to be wearing the official clothes of Japan, but they have to be made out of colorless. When you can't get away with wearing a blacksuit, you can get away with another brown one..... Swallow it and buy yourself a little bit of a little bit of a sneaker. They MUST also be wearing a necktie in blacken. Woman also wearing blacks, usually a blacks gown, and I think the shoulder and sleeves are to cover.
If I come to the vigil or burial, what do I do? As you enter the ballroom, the dead man's relatives will stand on one side of the doors. To whom should I give the codes? Once you're done with the whole house, it's timeto deliver the moneys.
Tell me you didn't hold it in your hands because you showed respect for the mob. It will have a desk or bar with several persons behind it to agree to the code. You' re not part of the product line, so put the code cover on one of the other pans. You have many ways to pass the codes.
Once you have given the code, someone will give you a gift pack or pouch with something and a postcard. The''return'' for the code is called''koden gaeshi''. The whole burial process is highly flamboyant, so it's tough to screw up. Nowadays, most burials take place in a ceremonial room, so that they distribute the teas and candies.
Can you tell me what happens to the code? When you put the code on the tablet, someone writes a number on the back. Then the packages are placed in one of three boxes: relative, general, staff and at the end of the evening the crates are placed in a safety deposit box. This same trial will continue the next morning for the mourning.
There is sometimes a bowl for'candle money' on the altar. Who' s counting the moneys? By the end of the burial, or sometime during the burial date, the persons who have accepted the code will retreat to a back room to counter the number. The inner cover is taken from the outside cover and passed on to the next one.
When there is no inner cover, the cover is simply unsealed. Then the next one in the row picks up the cash from the wallet, realizes how much, and gives it to the next one. The third is counting the cash and telling the Excel type the name and how much.
Excel files are printout and placed in the vault with the funds to be passed on to the hosts later on. Did someone accidentally give an empty code? And I don't even understand why they go to the trouble of taking the code cash out of the vault.